"I'm Not In Love" - 10cc

Happy V-Day Peeps!!! No, I don't mean that V! I mean Happy Verification Day! You know, that day when your partner verifies that they really do love you afterall, even if they've neglected to tell you all the other 364 days of the year! Wow, you say? Why is she so cynical and bitter?  I'm neither cynical nor bitter, but I do consider myself  pragmatic...a realist. Yes, I used to be idealistic about love too...we probably all have been at some place and time in our lives. It's just that...well, I've come to the realization that while being in love feels really good, it can also feel really bad too. Even hurtful.

Now, along comes this once a year day, on February 14th; called Valentine's Day! Oh, the excitement! The anticipation! The thought of getting flowers, candy, marriage proposals, cards...or, the acknowledgment that you will probably not get any of the above because simply put...you are alone. You don't have a partner to share the festivities with. You broke up with someone you loved; You lost someone you love. For whatever reason, you don't look forward to the great Valentine's Day hoopla. They say misery loves company...well I'm not miserable, but I am willing to suggest reasons not to feel so down if you don't exactly look forward to this day! I ask you, what is so lovable about a little chubby naked baby flying around shooting people with arrows?

Bad poetry..."Roses Are Red, Violets Are Blue, Sugar is Sweet, and So Are You"...now what have we learned about sugar? It is bad for you!!!

Candy...Chocolates...love it, but if it contains certain nuts, I get really ill. Can't eat Hazel nuts, Brazil nuts, cashews. Thing is, there was a time when you didn't know which one's contained those nuts until you bit into the chocolate. I think they now include a description on the box to identify which ones contain nuts, but that would be most of the box!

Chalky little hearts with corny, outdated sayings...hate it!

Flowers...they die in two or three days and are so darned expensive!

And last but not least, hurt feelings if your sweetie forgets to give you anything. If you don't expect anything in the first place, you won't feel so let down. Besides, love should be shown 365 days of the year, don't you think?

Now, I give you my lists of favorite love songs and anti-love songs...

My Favorite Love songs: not in preferential order

1.  You Make Me Feel Brand New - Stylistics
2.  You Are Everything - Stylistics
3.  You Really Got A Hold On Me -  Miracles
4.  La-La-La-La-La-La Means I Love You -  Delfonics
5.  Cupid - Sam Cooke
6.  I'll Always Love You - Whitney Houston
7.  Oh, Baby Baby - Miracles
8.  I Just Called To Say I Love You - Stevie Wonder
9.  My Girl -  Temptations
10.What's Come Over Me? - Blue Magic
11. Oh What A Night -  Dells
12. Rainbow - Gene Chandler
13. I Want To Know - Joe
14. For You - Kenny Latimore
15. I Love You - Patti LaBelle
16. Here And Now - Luther Vandross
17. Make It With You - Bread
18. I Want To Dance To A Love Song -  Manhattans
19. Love's Train - Confunkshun
20. Oh Girl -  Chi-Lites

My Favorite Anti-Love songs:

1.  What's Love Got To Do With It? - Tina Turner
2.  Where Did Our Love Go? - Supremes
3.  After The Love Is Gone - EWF
4.  Love Is A Hurting Thing - Lou Rawls
5.  Hate That I Love You - Rihanna
6.  You Give Love A Bad Name - Bon Jovi
7.  To The Left - Beyonce
8.  I Will Survive - Gloria Gaynor
9.  I'm Gonna Walk Away From Love - David Ruffin
10. I'm Not In Love - 10cc
11. Caught Out There - Kelis
12. Victim - Candy Staton
13. If You Leave Me Now - Chicago
14. Why Do Fools Fall In Love? - The Teenagers
15. Out In The Cold Again - Frankie Lymon
16. Mexican Divorce - Drifters
17. On My Own - Patti LaBelle
18. Tainted Love - Soft Cell
19. Hit The Road Jack - Ray Charles
20. Love Is Blue - Dells

Footnote:  My darling granddaughter Kalila just brought up a card she made and...A heart shaped tin of chocolates! Happy V Day!