EAST COAST * WEST COAST DIVAS: "Wifey" - by Next

EAST COAST * WEST COAST DIVAS: "Wifey" - by Next

"Wifey" - by Next

Good morning peeps! The song I woke up thinking about this morning is Wifey by Next. Now ordinarily, I don't give a rat's a-- about current or recent music; I'm an old head with old musical tastes. However, there have been a few exceptions in recent years...wow, it's been nine years (2000) since Wifey came out! I was a part of a "Ghetto Fabulous" wedding in Harlem that year as a bridesmaid, and Wifey was one of the songs played at the reception, along with other songs in that genre. Included were: Let's Get Married, by Jagged Edge and I Wanna Know by Joe, the latter being a favorite of mine. Anyway, with the Tiger Woods' cheating scandal being in the news daily, I've been thinking about infidelity in relationships; particularly marriage, and pondering that age old question: why do people cheat? Why are men more likely than women to cheat? Some even claim that cheating is in a man's DNA! Why are beautiful women like Halle Berry, Christie Brinkley, Priscilla Presley, etc cheated on? I know that being physically beautiful doesn't necessarily mean having the best disposition or even being passionate. In fact, maybe being physically beautiful causes some women ( or men )  to feel a sense of entitlement when it comes to their relationships with their spouses or partners, and they want the spouse to do all the work...so to speak. Instead of a give and take partnership, it ends up being "one-sided" and the other partner isn't really being fulfilled. That being the case, the spouse will grow tired of that and seek pleasure elsewhere. ( I am not condoning, just rationalizing ). Of course there are a myriad of reasons why people in committed relationships or marriages cheat: sexual addictions, greed, unrealistic expectations about marriage, marrying too young.  We can only speculate as to Tiger Woods' motives. A musician friend of mine suggests that women very much "throw themselves" at high profile, extremely popular and wealthy men like Tiger Woods; ( I think we all agree on that ). He says that he has even had it happen to him. Although he is far from rich, just being a bass player in bands made him the "object" of many a predatory female...read: groupies! Now that he's older and wiser but still plays, he contends that he isn't so easily lured in anymore...yeah right! But, back to the title, "Wifey." Fellas, what does it mean to you? Is it a term of endearment for a woman you want to marry? Is it a code word for the woman you are already married to, and used to encourage women to pursue you anyway? Does it apply to a woman you have been with for years but haven't married? Is it reserved for your main woman though you might be dealing with more than one at a time? Is it a positive or a negative word? I have been a wife, but have I been a "wifey?" Huummm? I have a sweet friend that calls me his "wifey" and guess what...It makes me smile!

EAST COAST * WEST COAST DIVAS: "Me and Mrs. Jones" - Billy Paul

EAST COAST * WEST COAST DIVAS: "Me and Mrs. Jones" - Billy Paul

EAST COAST * WEST COAST DIVAS: "Me and Mrs. Jones" - Billy Paul

EAST COAST * WEST COAST DIVAS: "Me and Mrs. Jones" - Billy Paul

"Me and Mrs. Jones" - Billy Paul

Good morning peeps! I missed you yesterday, because I was at The Bronx Zoo hanging with the lions and tigers and bears...oh my! However, I'm back today with my list of favorite "cheating" songs.Yeah, I know it's cheap and gratuitous, but hey...I didn't promise you a rose garden! I think in songs! Please add your favorites as well.

 Favorite cheating songs

1. Me and Mrs. Jones - Billy Paul

2. Who Is He And What Is He To You? - Bill Withers

3. How Long Has This Been Going On? - Pablo Cruise


4. Kiss And Say Goodbye - The Manhattans


5. Papa Was A Rolling Stone - The Temptations


6. Careless Whispers - George Michaels


7. If Loving You Is Wrong - Luther Ingram


8. I Saw You (and him) Walking In The Rain - Oran "Juice" Jones



9. Somebody Else's Guy - Jocelyn Brown


10. Me And Mrs. Jones - Billy Paul or The Dramatics's version



11. You, Me and He -  Mtume


12. Your  Cheating Heart - Hank Williams


13.  I Heard It Through The Grapevine - Marvin Gaye


14. O.P.P. - Naughty By Nature


15. Slip Away - Clarence Carter


16. Stranger - LTD

17.  Smokey Places - The Corsairs ( A favorite of mine since I was twelve; I was    musically precocious I guess)

18. Dark End Of The Street - James Carr


19. I'm In Love With The Other Woman - Ray Parker Junior


20. Torn Between Two Lovers - Mary Macgregor

EAST COAST * WEST COAST DIVAS: "Who's Making Love To Your Old Lady, While You Were Out Making Love?" - Johnny Taylor

EAST COAST * WEST COAST DIVAS: "Who's Making Love To Your Old Lady, While You Were Out Making Love?" - Johnny Taylor

"Who's Making Love To Your Old Lady, While You Were Out Making Love?" - Johnny Taylor

Good morning peeps! Who besides me remembers that Esso Gasoline commercial that goes, "Put A Tiger In Your Tank?" Well, apparently Tiger does! He "allegedly" put a Tiger in more than one tank! Why oh why do high profile people think they are immune to being exposed for cheating? They are especially susceptible!!! Duh! In the past, Tiger Woods has been criticized for being racially confused (remember when he coined a new phrase to identify himself, rather than admit to being...BLACK and TAI...CABLINASIAN!). He has also been described as being "apolitical"...that is; never taking a stand on political or racial controversies. This was leveled against him and Michael Jordan at times. Who'd-a-thunk Tiger would be involved in a cheating scandal??? In interviews, he has been very private about his life but did openly declare his devotion to his wife and children. I have a friend on the West Coast (Hey Ted), who says it's "The Power of The Coochie" that makes men do these things. Fellas, is this true??? Huuummm...Cleopatra, Angelina, Helen of Troy, Elizabeth Taylor are a few names that come to mind. So, as is my little habit; I offer you a playlist of songs and dedicate them to Tiger Woods and company. Since there are so many songs to choose from, I am going to limit my playlist to ten. You feel free to add on.

My Play list for Tiger and company:

1. Who's Making Love To Your Old Lady, While You Are Out Making Love?, by Johnny Taylor


2. Careless Whispers, by George Michaels

3. I'm In Love, With The Other Woman, by Ray Parker Junior


4. She's Got Papers On Me, by Richard "Dimples" Fields

5. Papa's Got A Brand New Bag, by James Brown

6. She Used To Be My Girl, by The O'Jays

7. Mexican Divorce, by The Drifters

8. Money, Money, Money, by The O'Jays

9 .The Clean Up Woman, by Betty Wright

10. She's Come Undun, by The Guess Who